Virtual lives; a virtue or a vice?

Due to the ‘Social media revolution’ offline life has become redundant. Everything we want to do in life can be done online. What happened to meeting people in person, going on a date, getting to know each other over a cup of coffee? Playing soccer, basketball, hockey or just playing outside? What about having an actual game night with friends to play boggle, poker, rummy etc? Secretly hiding porn magazines underneath your matrass? That’s not necessary anymore, just go online!

It struck me when I was watching this video did you know that 1 in 5 couples meet online and not only that, but 3 in 5 gay couples meet online. Next to that, 1 in 5 divorces are blamed on Facebook.  Is this fair to assume or just an easy way out? 1 in 5 divorces, that means that 20% of the divorced couples blame it on Facebook, maybe the relationship that you were in, was not that healthy and stable to begin with. It is easier to say that it is not your fault, however it seems scary and confusing  to me that the “revolution” of social media is capable to do so. Facebook was only introduced in 2004, so who was to blame before that?

Next to that, if you want to meet someone, there is no need to go outside. You can look for a specific criteria to find your perfect match.  Just make a video, post this and let others find you. Does this mean that love at first sight is not possible anymore? We can already do so much research on the other person through social media. So why would you actually go on the first date, you already know each other( probably better than you’d prefer), like what you see? So move in, get married and then blame it on Facebook when it doesn’t work out. Sounds like a good deal. Everything a person says on the internet is true anyway.

Then there is another issue, how do you know to what website you have to go to meet your perfect partner? The site for beautiful people, higher educated or just random? Who decides that I am educated or pretty enough to sign up?

In my opinion it’s a shame that our first instinct is to go online to go look for entertainment, people, activities instead of looking for them in our offline lives. This may seem easier, but in the end it can make us lazy, closed off from the outside world. Is that really what we want?

Sources:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fpMZbT1tx2o, 21-11-2012, Socialnomics 3

http://news.stanford.edu/news/2010/february8/rosenfeld-online-dating-02112010.html, Stanford News, 21-11-2012, Forget Cupid. Online connections have valentines falling in love, Stanford researcher says

http://www.buzzle.com/articles/common-causes-and-reasons-for-divorce.html, 21-11-2012, Buzzle, Intelligent Life on the web

http://www.echtscheiding-informatie.nl/redenen-scheiding, 21-11-2012

http://www.ebizmba.com/articles/dating-websites, eBizMBA, 21-11-2012, Top 15 Most Popular Dating Websites November 2012.

http://www.lexamore.nl/misc/howitworks_g.php, 21-11-2012, Official website lexamore

http://www.pof.com/, 21-11-2012, Official website Plentyoffish

https://www.zoosk.com/about.php?from=footer, 21-11-2012, Official website Zooks

http://www.eharmony.com/about/eharmony/, 21-11-2012, Official website eHarmony

http://kw.parship.nl/over-ons/index.htm, 21-11-2012, Official website Parship

http://www.dutchcowboys.nl/socialmedia/26188, Dutch Cowboys, 21-11-2012, The history of Social Media (1971-2012)

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